"Am I a Terrible Person for Feeling Happy at Someone’s Misfortune?" To Those Struggling with "Schadenfreude."

Hello. I'm Aries Yoko. Today, let’s talk a little bit about psychology.

"To be honest, I felt a sense of relief when that person failed..." "My friend, who seemed so happy, ran into trouble, and a part of me feels strangely relieved."

Have you ever noticed yourself feeling happy about someone else's misfortune and suddenly felt shocked, thinking, "I have such a bad personality"?

In psychology, this feeling actually has a name: "Schadenfreude." This emotion doesn't exist because you are a particularly bad person. In Japan, there is even a saying, "The misfortune of others tastes like honey."

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Schadenfreude is a sign that your heart is saying, "I'm exhausted."

In my view, the reason we might feel joy in someone else's misfortune is that you are fighting so hard in your own life right now.

• Comparing yourself to others: A reaction that happens when someone else shines so brightly that your own current position feels dark.
• Frustration with "unfairness": A flip side of your sense of justice, thinking that someone who gets ahead too easily should face a setback for once.
• Running out of emotional capacity: Because you aren't feeling fulfilled yourself, you don't have the energy left to purely celebrate someone else's happiness.

So, even if these feelings arise, you don't need to think "I'm the worst." It’s just a sign from your heart telling you, "Right now, I have my hands full just taking care of myself."

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The "Tarot Perspective": Turning Poison into Light

However, it's also painful for you to keep wishing for someone else's misfortune forever, isn't it? Wouldn't it be wonderful if you could use that restless energy for your own happiness instead?

That's exactly when I want you to project your "true desires" onto the Tarot cards.

3 Steps to Realign Yourself with Tarot:

1. Why are you reacting to that specific person?: The cards will reveal the true nature of the "envy" or "inferiority" you feel toward them.
2. Find your own "seeds of happiness": Stop looking at other people's gardens and peek into your own future destiny to see what beautiful flowers are about to bloom in your own life.
3. Advice to remove the thorns in your heart: The cards will gently guide you toward what will heal you most right now and how you can learn to like yourself more.

The relief gained from someone else's misfortune is fleeting, but the joy found in your own happiness lasts a lifetime. When you face yourself through the cards, you'll be surprised at how much less other people's lives start to matter.

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You are the protagonist of your life—no one else.

Hating someone or wishing for their misfortune is also proof that your passion is that strong. Why not use that powerful energy from now on to "make yourself shine the brightest"?

"What kind of happiness can I grasp from here on?" "How can I learn to love myself more?"

Try asking these questions to the cards with me. When your heart is filled with a calm light, both the happiness and misfortune of others will turn into nothing more than part of the passing scenery.

Aries Yoko is truly waiting for the day when you can become completely captivated by your own happiness.